The other day, I went on a little test run.
Nothing major…just me deciding I’m ready to start taking my fitness journey seriously. Not just for how I look, but for how I feel. The discipline. The routine. The glow.
After my run, I stopped by the grocery store to grab a few things to meal prep and as I’m in the cheese aisle trying to decide if I want Parmesan or Cheddar or if I want cheese at all, I hear a voice say:
“Excuse me…can you help me with something?”
I look up, a little confused.
It’s a tall Hispanic man standing next to me. I say, “Okay?”
He pauses… smiles… and says:
“Can you help me find… your number?”
Now listen. Meeting a man was the furthest thing from my mind.
I chuckled and blurted out:
“I have a man.” (A whole lie. 😂)
Truth is, I don’t have a man. I’m freshly out of a 7-year relationship, and this was the first time I’d been approached since. I realized in that moment that I didn’t even know how to receive interest anymore. I’d been in survival mode so long, I forgot what it felt like to just be… seen.
Eventually, I smiled and gave him my number.
But he didn’t stop there.
He looked at my cart and asked if I had kids. I said yes a 7-year-old and a 23-year-old. And then I turned and asked him how old he was, remembering that I’m now a woman of a certain age
“Thirty,” he said.
I laughed and said, “30??”
He asked, “Is that a problem?”
And without thinking too hard, I said something I’ve never said before:
“I’ve never really thought about it. But I’m open to trying new things.”
Whew. That answer came from a new me.
The me who’s not afraid to be seen.
The me who doesn’t feel like she has to have it all figured out.
The me who’s learning to receive without losing herself.
What this man really represents for me…
It’s not about him. It’s what he reflects back to me about this season of my life.
He’s younger.
He’s a different race.
He’s not what I’m used to and neither is this version of me.
This man is a symbol. A mirror.
A sign that my light is returning.
That my magnetism is growing.
That I’m expanding past the limits I once placed on myself consciously or subconsciously.
Because let me be honest I’ve had a pattern.
Every time I start focusing on myself…
Every time I start getting grounded in my routine, my glow, my purpose…
Here comes a man.
And in the past, that man would slowly pull me off my path.
Not because he was bad, but because I was still learning to stay rooted in me.
But this time feels different.
This time, I’m not disappearing into the connection.
I’m not contorting myself to be chosen.
I’m staying anchored in my glow.
And I’m letting life show me what’s possible when I lead with trust instead of fear.
This moment is about more than flirting in a grocery store.
It’s about watching myself evolve in real time.
It’s about catching the shift in my body, my energy, my boundaries, my voice.
This is the season where I stop shrinking.
Where I let myself be pursued without abandoning myself.
Where I remain the main character, even when romance enters the plot.
Because love can add to your life.
But it should never replace it.
So we’ll see where this goes. I’m not forcing a thing.
I’m just grateful that I’ve grown enough to recognize when the universe is giving me a little wink that says…
“Keep going. You’re glowing.”
Have you noticed this pattern too where just as you start choosing yourself, a man shows up?
It’s like the universe is testing your focus.
Like it’s asking: “Can you hold your glow when a new desire appears?”
For me, this was a pattern that silently cost me money, time, and momentum.
Because every time I started pouring into me here came the distraction.
And not just romantic distraction… but the deeper habit of abandoning myself the moment someone else entered the picture.
And that abandonment?
It bled into how I ran my business and it dictated what I felt safe receiving.
So this season, I’m doing something radical:
I’m staying rooted in me.
Because magnetism lives in wholeness.
Abundance flows where alignment is.
And money shows up for the woman who shows up for herself.
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